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What to do when the groom won't tell his parents he's engaged

By Jeff Wilser, ThePlunge.com (MCT), Source: MCT News Service

A reader writes:

"My fiance is really nervous to tell his family about our engagement. Now, having said that, being a bride to be this is a little hard to swallow ... You know women, we get excited and tell everyone and their brother till we can't breathe anymore then continue to tell more people.

I've officially done that, but he is so afraid of what his side will think, and every time I bring up the wedding he gets this weird look. When I ask him about it, he tells me he's messing everything up because we keep it a secret from his side of the family. Especially his father, who seems to criticize him at every turn.

Don't get me wrong I know that he just wants what's best for his son but sometimes he seems a little "open" about his opinions. The whole story is, is that we haven't been together that long. I've met his mother once and that's all of his side I know. He moved a state and a half away to be with me.

So now I ask you:

1. Why is he so scared?

2: How do we break it to them?

3: Am I being too pushy?

4. Finally, how do I get him involved? Not the bridezilla type of involved but the "I want your signature on the wedding too" kind.

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